Lack Of Affection Never Kills

Despite everything being said, if we were whole at the start of the relationship, we won’t have to worry when the lack of affection arrives because we will continue to be ourselves.

Unless you allow it because you now feel empty, lacking a part that made you feel whole, lack of affection never kills.

The belief of half, wanting to change the other, giving everything that in reality we do not think we deserve to receive is a path that will lead to suffering.

It is then that the lack of affection, which will not be far away, will wait for you to sink you, so that you feel lonely and that the engine of your life has taken away your joy, your essence, your existence.

The importance of lack of affection

Lack of affection is not important when we are not dealing with the death of a loved one, serious illness, or other very important situation.

However, nothing more should happen to us to realize that we are giving an exaggerated priority to breaking up with our partner.

Suddenly, everything collapses, nothing makes sense, we think we are dying… Acceptance is far from being achieved and, if we can, we twist even more in this pain that grips us.

Maybe we gave everything for each other, maybe we got submerged in a relationship when we previously should have been working on our self-esteem.

Maybe we were already empty when we started this relationship, but without realizing it because we hid everything thanks to the other, from whom we asked everything that we did not have.

We gave Him the power and responsibility to give us the love we didn’t have for ourselves, the security we lacked, and the joy we couldn’t find on our own.

We made a big mistake, we gave priority to the other, making them our savior. And when everything gets complicated, we cease to exist …

You continue to exist despite the onset of lack of affection

Your partner tells you that they don’t feel the same way anymore and you notice that you start to stop being yourself, that you disappear, that you go up in smoke.

However, although he tells you this, even though everything has changed, even if he finds another person to share his life with or you are not exactly what the other person is looking for, you still exist.

The main problem that makes your world fall apart is that you have become attached to the other, you have devoted yourself to the other, you have left a lot of responsibilities in their hands.

But, even if the lack of affection arises, your world does not necessarily collapse. It’s the impression it gives but what happens is you have a lack of perspective.

To avoid falling apart when your relationship ends for various reasons, it is necessary to forge a strong relationship with yourself.

Why do we strive to keep good relationships with others but not with ourselves?

We despise ourselves, we don’t give ourselves the value we deserve. And that’s how most of our problems arise.

Free love

No one teaches us to love freely.

Disney tales, religion and the incessant publicity that we receive make us become attached, to desire the other person very much, but what about us?

We have been castrated from our youth until adulthood. And discover that we are nothing if we do not do what we are told.

• “You must be in a relationship”
• “To love is to suffer”
• “You have to endure in your relationship”
• “Love is an effort”

All these beliefs which were very strongly anchored in our minds condition our way of living relationships. And to feel the lack of affection.

We haven’t been taught to let go. To make the decision to leave him without doubting and without waiting for everything to collapse on its own. When we don’t feel good anymore, when nothing works anymore.

We support, we trample on our self-esteem, we humiliate ourselves, we do thousands of things that go against ourselves.

Lack of affection doesn’t kill. Lack of affection very often is the release of a heavy load.

Let’s stop believing old stories that we still think are real in the news. Let’s start today to let go of everything that doesn’t do us good without feeling guilty.