Accept The Changes. There Is Always Something Wonderful To Learn

Human beings are constantly changing. Instead of worrying and clinging to the past, we need to be prepared to face what is happening and which can be much better than the past.

Changes are part of nature. Life represents cycles, phases and stages, and the human being is part of this living and vital movement.

To change means to grow up: it is something we should not be afraid of. 

But how to do it ? How to accept, for example, the loss of youth? Or how to accept the loss of a job?

A variation in existence can bring with it uncertainty and a period of crisis.

However, if we focus in a suitable way, we will see that it is possible to “reinvent ourselves”, or to discover unexpected things that make us dream differently.

We invite you to think about this.

The changes that are painful, the changes that enrich us

We could start by talking about what we call “normative vital crises”.

These are personal moments that we have all lived: a change of school, adolescence, a disappointment in love, the loss of a loved one …

You should know that not everyone faces changes in the same way. The same tips and the same strategies have totally different effects on people.

In addition to normative vital crises, we can experience physical and personal changes. There are always times of difficulty.

Think about these kinds of situations:

• Going through a complicated period due to stress or a one-off illness, and gain or lose weight without even realizing it.
• Dealing with menopause and the physical and biological changes it brings about is a great pain for many women.
• Pregnancies, seeing how children grow up and how they become independent involve taking on new roles and new ways of approaching life.

There are changes that hurt, without a doubt, but you should know that any time of personal crisis also involves an opportunity to change and improve as a person.

Why are some people who cope better with change than others?

In your social circle, surely you know someone who has overcome their separation in a very positive way.

People who have serious and long-lasting illnesses always teach us great lessons in life, thanks to their optimism and a life force that we do not know where it comes from.

There are personalities who emerge strengthened from the most complex and difficult unforeseen events. How do they do it?

Acceptance and struggle

You will never resist change. It is unnecessary suffering that is best avoided.

Acceptance is the first step in the struggle before rebuilding yourself and continuing your life path.

• If someone doesn’t love you anymore, accept it. Don’t hold on to something that can’t happen anymore.
• If you have been fired, accept and keep fighting. Maybe you will have an opportunity for a better path.
• If you see that your figure is changing with age, accept the passage of time, but strive every day to take care of yourself and feel good about yourself.

Changes are times of opportunity

You may have had to leave behind something that defined you and made you happy.

Instead of fearing the loneliness or uncertainty of change, face this moment as an opportunity.

• We know it is not easy to achieve, but the purpose of your life is to be happy and you will see that new doors and new opportunities will open up for you.
• Self-confidence, self-esteem and the determination to smile again will remind you that there are still plenty of trails and trains to discover.

Life forces us to turn pages, but also to change books

Let’s take an example: you have been helping your family for a long time and giving your all for them.

However, whatever you do, your loved ones don’t give you recognition because they assume it’s your role.

• You’ve tried everything to make you look good and consider you but the only thing you get is your own frustration.
• Maybe now is the time to turn the page? Maybe you should do something more drastic.

Sometimes the small changes make us feel even more sad, instead of bringing us happiness. This is why it is necessary to initiate great changes.

It is obvious that these “big changes” can be made with a lot of courage, personal will and sufficient self-esteem to step out of your comfort zone.

Our life cycle is full of variations and this should not scare us, on the contrary.

It should motivate us and force us to be part of this harmonious movement of growing, maturing, loving, bonding and building our own happiness.